Do you assume we begin to drift and become damaged after we have grown? Do you believe that depression and suicidal thoughts are the results of a mentally taxing adulthood? Do you believe that age and maturity remove the dents from yesterday’s bruises?
I have something to tell you. I want you to read without jumping to conclusions or making judgments. I want you to see that a lot happened when some were still like tender flowers, budding; a time when they were like cubs. When they were supposed to be under the watchful hawk-like eyes of their guardians, they were tender, innocent, vulnerable, gullible, tabula rasas when they got their share of “brokenness” and they never left that zone of torment.
Even after they must have grown into adulthood, they still shape-shift to visit the scene of their torment. How? What happened? What caused the damage? What created the bitterness? How come they don’t let the pain heal? Can such pain ever heal? Yes, one can learn to deal with it, but does it ever go away?
Paedophilia! Paedophiles!!! Wicked demons possessed beings in human clothing. They are agents of life-long regret and torture, their consciences smeared and charred with the branded iron of wickedness. Damaged people!
They are constantly in the habit of harming others. How come your morals are so debased that you pick out the weak and innocent as your victims of assault? How come you choose to teach children the ways of adulthood when they are not grown up enough to make that decision themselves?
These are their lives, and they have the legitimate right to decide when to begin having sex. You should not force them to rip off their virginal veils at a time when they may not even be familiar with virginity or sex.
But paedophiles have vowed that the only place they find that euphoric satisfaction is when they indulge a child in that adult act. Selfish people Inconsiderate and self-centred fellows But I am going to warn my daughters and sons against you all!
They will know from infancy that there are some parts of their bodies that are marked “private” and nobody has the right to touch them, and anyone who trespasses will be reported on.
Mama Emeka, I don’t know why you feel so comfortable when Ogbuu (the killer) calls Adanna, a girl of 8 years, his wife! Like, how is Adanna his wife? Why would you allow Agu (lion) to carry Ebere, a baby of 6 months, into his room with no other person, an adult in the house?
Why have you refused to look at Titi to see that she doesn’t like it when you call Uncle Kunle to come to the house? Why have you failed to notice that Obinnwa is beginning to jump on Uwadiegwu (the world is fearful) whenever he comes around? What’s the fondness? What’s so special about Ahmed that Amina, a girl of two years, wants to always be close to him?
Why does Ifereeme (shamelessness) always buy candy for Tayo without buying it for the rest of her siblings? Are you so daft that you can’t see the handwriting on the wall? Don’t leave your children alone and assume that everyone is as carefree and reasonable as you are. Some adults are sick!
I know my male readers will wonder why I haven’t talked about women who are paedophiles too. Relax guys, I am not biased! This lashing is going to reach every one of them. Oh! Do you think female adults are left out? Asi Ocha! (white lies).
They are there, with their witch-like eyes, looking for helpless male children to satisfy their corrupt sexual urges. Senseless “bunch of women” Do you think Ayo, a boy of 6, is safe? Hmm! He didn’t tell you what Aunty Halima did with his tiny phallus. She almost broke it! Now he has become a boy-child servicing sugar mamas. Do you think guys don’t get the heat too?
Now, growing up, the girl child comes to dread her body. She feels incomplete and used because a grown male adult who failed to take his eyes off and control his selfish, immoral desires broke her open and took away her trace of dignity. So she becomes an anti-man.
What makes the pain so unbearable is that this adult was a trusted member of the family or a very close friend of the family, so what does this teach her from that time on? ‘Nobody should be trusted’, so from that tender age, she learns to see every male as a potential abuser. Trust issues sowed and grew themselves deep within her subconscious.
Ekewensu (devil)! So, you told Anna not to mention it to her mother, and if she did, you were going to kill her, stop buying her things, and nobody would believe her anyway! Oh, my world! Poor child. So she learns to keep secrets, with the mindset that nobody will believe her anyway. The mother looks but doesn’t see her. What a shame! So she goes around hinging that back-breaking burden that she is damaged for life.
You people call Yetunde a womanizer, hmm? (scoffs) Did Yetunde ever tell you how he started? It was Ajoke, their house help, that started playing with his “piim piim”, and now he is so used to it that it has become part of his daily routine. From childhood, they broke and spoiled the poor boy. How sad!
My lash starts with mothers. Don’t be an absentee mother. Mothers have to work to keep the home, yes I know! But never forget where your priority lies. You birthed those children. You should listen to them, you should look at them, you should “see” them.
A lot is going on in the lives of your children that they might never get to tell you about. Did Ama tell you that the headmaster of her school was always calling her into his office to fondle her growing breasts? How will she tell you? You don’t even notice how gloomy she looks whenever she comes back from school.
She has asked that you change her school. Have you taken the time to ask her why she suddenly wants to change the school that once brought her so much pride and happiness? Of course, you won’t ask her.
Your own is to compete with Daddy, flex muscles, and show that you can provide for the family too. Oh, Mummy, I never said you shouldn’t work. Work makes your life meaningful, but never leave your children at the mercy of others. Don’t let others train your children for you. Be friends with your children.
Every child has distinct characteristics. Look for it and learn how to relate to each of them. Make them understand that you must protect them. Don’t just tell them you love them; prove to them that you do by your actions. Make them feel loved, protected, and looked out for.
You will then see how they will run to you whenever they encounter any challenge. They will tell you everything. Don’t interrupt when they speak; let them pour their hearts out. Don’t shun them or make them feel their words are irrelevant. If you fail to listen, another adult will tell them what they shouldn’t hear.
Mothers!!! Be wise and reasonable.
Fathers! Do you think I will not call you all out? Of course, the children are yours too. We know you have to work hard to provide for your children, and I understand. But why have you turned into a tyrant in your own home? You are making everyone highly uncomfortable around you.
You are the man of the house, the head of the family. For God’s sake, no one is dragging those titles with you! Lower your crown and be approachable; be the type of father whose children can always threaten strangers by saying:
“If you ever come close to me, my father will kill you, wake you up, and make sure you die slowly by cutting off your body parts bit by bit and making sure you eat them before killing you again.”
Just make your children have that confidence. It’s not too much to ask. Throwing your weight around and making them fake respect and reverence for you when you’re around doesn’t make you the celebrity superhero that exists only in your delusion. Fathers! Be wise and be that roof your children run to, to find shade away from the world’s woes.
Parents!!! Give birth to the number of children you can comfortably take care of! Plenty of children do not bring blessings when they are not properly taken care of and given the necessary aid they need for daily survival.
You are making your children objects of abuse and molestations because you have subjected them to child labour and now they are tools for sexual gratification for all those godforsaken hoodlums. “Control your urges!” Biko, everybody should have some sense of responsibility.
Inform your children, provide them with sex education based on their level of articulation and understanding, and help them understand that sex is not a forbidden fruit or the cliche bruhaha that “you automatically get pregnant when you sit on a man’s lap.”
Make them understand that sex is beautiful and that it is only for those who are legally married. As they grow older, teach them about their bodies and what they should and should not do with them. Help them accept the risks of premarital sex and train them to value such education; instil in them the notion that they must wait for the right moment.
Finally, you will be justified in your role as a parent. If you did everything you could and it didn’t work out, you’ll be excused on the day of reckoning. Pikin wey hear and still want spoil go spoil! E no go be your fault.
Charity is said to begin at home. The home, as a primary sector of child development, should do everything in its power to protect the child physically, emotionally, financially, psychologically, and otherwise.
When children grow up in a safe environment, they will become healthy adults, and our streets will have fewer good-looking adults with broken psychology because the corpses of their rotten childhood have turned into ghosts that haunt them even in their graves.
Shalom!!
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Paedophiles are devils, but maybe of parents do better, we would reduce their chances far below average. But unfortunately, healthy parenting is farfetched an our children are at the receiving ends of these deficits. How sad! Derica, thanks for this. The world should read this.